The act of DMing is rewarding but it also comes with
challenges. Being a DM requires one to
develop a thick skin. You’re going to
have problem players and you’re going to take criticism. Dealing with these situations can be quite
difficult if you’re a sensitive person.
One needs a certain level of detachment and the ability not to take
things personally. This can be quite
hard, especially when you pour your heart and soul into a campaign.
Taking Criticism
At one point or another you’re going to receive criticism
from your players and it can be hard to take.
Take a step back and look at the criticism. Is this constructive criticism? Is the player bringing up a valid point that
you need to address? Some criticism is a
good thing and it can help you improve your game. When players bring up a valid point learn
from it and adapt what you’re doing to make the game more enjoyable. Ultimately, you want your players to be happy
with what you’re doing, if for example your players want more role playing and less
combat in the campaign the only way they can communicate that to you is through
constructive criticism.
While your player may have a valid point, they may not be
able to present it in a non-confrontational manner. It is your job as DM not to let yourself get
defensive and become confrontational back.
In this case it is even more important to take a step back and analyze
what the player is telling you. Though
the presentation may be less than palatable the player may still be giving you
valuable criticism. Don’t let their pour
presentation hurt your feelings, not everyone is good at communication and may
not know how to present their feelings in an appropriate manner.
On the other hand not all criticism is constructive and it
is hard not to take this kind of criticism personally. This leads us into the next topic, problem players.
Problem Players
Some people just want to watch the world burn and you can’t
take it personally. At some point in your
DM career you are most likely going to run in to a problem player, someone who
just has to stir the pot. They’re
disruptive and can even be hurtful. It
can feel like they are personally attacking you. Realize that it’s really not about you but
about their need for attention and control.
Remember, you are the DM and it’s your show not theirs. What you say goes no matter what kind of
tantrum they throw. Pull players like
this aside out of game time and discuss their behavior with them. Many times this will resolve the
problem. If this fails you have two
options. Ignore their behavior and work
around them or ask them to leave the game.
Anyway it goes down remember that their behavior is their problem and
not yours. You are not responsible for
the behavior of others even if they try to blame their behavior on something
you have said or done.
The main thing is to learn not to take things
personally. Learn to detach and see
things from an objective point of view.
Decide if the player is actually presenting something helpful that you
can use to improve your performance. You’ve
got to develop a thick skin to DM.
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